The thing which hurt me most throughout my life was not my gym injuries, or my eye strain, or my gag reflex syndrome, It was two of my narcissist family members.
They were so entitled that even if anyone tried to give them justification even about slightest of the mistakes like spilling water, they would just go all in and destroyed the self esteem of the guy in front of them by saying things like “you’ll never succeed in life” or “you can’t even drink water properly, how can you be successful”. In this article we are going to look how to deal with such situations and such people.
The most effective way I used to stay locked from that toxic talks is by constantly affirming positive and uplifting quotes to myself every single day. It’s a very effective solution to deal with narcissism, because it’s a universal fact that you can’t teach narcissist people how to behave properly, so in order to escape from their mental prison, you have to stay away from them and affirm as much positive thoughts as you can every morning.
You have to make your skin so thick that no one could possibly destroy your mindset or lower your self esteem.
Always watch through them
When they want to, those with narcissistic personalities are pretty good at turning on the charm. You might find yourself drawn to their grand ideas and promises. This can also make them particularly popular in work settings.
But before you get drawn in, watch how they treat people when they’re not “on stage.” If you catch them lying, manipulating, or blatantly disrespecting others, there’s no reason to believe they won’t do the same to you.
Despite what someone with a narcissistic personality may say, your wants and needs are likely unimportant to them. And if you try to bring up this issue, you may be met with resistance.
The first step in dealing with someone who has a narcissistic personality is simply accepting that this is who they are — there’s not much you can do to change that.
Take it easy
Calling a narcissist’s bluff may mean that you ignore the person, but it might also mean that you meet that bluff with a laugh at least once in a while. Without being cruel about it, you can point to the inappropriateness of the person’s egocentric behavior with a smile or joke.
This would be particularly appropriate for the grandiose type of narcissist, who will probably find it entertaining and possibly instructive.
Mind your own business
When there’s a narcissistic personality in your orbit, attention seems to gravitate their way. That’s by design — whether it’s negative or positive attention, those with narcissistic personalities work hard to keep themselves in the spotlight.
You might soon find yourself buying into this tactic, pushing aside your own needs to keep them satisfied.
If you’re waiting for a break in their attention-seeking behavior, it may never come. No matter how much you adjust your life to suit to their needs, it’s never going to be enough.
If you must deal with a narcissistic personality, don’t allow them to infiltrate your sense of self or define your world. You matter, too. Regularly remind yourself of your strengths, desires, and goals.
Take charge and carve out some “me time.” Take care of yourself first and remember that it’s not your job to fix them.